When you get into fights or arguments, do you always feel that you are the one who is right and everyone else is wrong? Why is that you are the only one who has made all the sacrifices and everyone else is just a stupid idiot?
I just want to tell my friends here that, when you get into fights or arguments, take a deep breath, take a step back, and take a look at the whole situation again – why did things end up this way? Is there a better alternative to the current mess? Try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes and look at the whole thing again. You may be able to see something different.
Things don’t have to go ugly when we fight. Try to be civilized and find ways out to settle things in peace. Afterall, it is not worth it to be mad at anyone or anything.
I am a happy receiver of unconditional love – daily! I really enjoy it when my sons run to me; when they feel the needs to hold (squeeze) my hands; when they cling onto me in danger or sadness. It feels good to be loved and trusted – unconditionally.
However, do you remember the love you gave your parents unconditionally when you were young?
Do we give others unconditional love and trust as a grown-up?
Do you still love and trust your parents unconditionally?
Alas! I am glad that my answer is YES to this question.
What are your answers to these questions?
I need to learn to relax!
As simple and stupid it may sound, this is my new year resolution. My goal this year is to relax for 15 minutes everyday. I may listen to music; read a book; do some stretching, etc. Well, it may sound easy to a lot of people, it is certainly not easy for me. My mind is on the go all the time – what to do next, what activity I can squeeze-in in 10 minutes, how much I can read on a 15-minute MTR journey…this list is endless. As well, I am always on the go, physically – taking the boys to schools, to their lessons, going to my classes, running errands for the family…again, this list is endless. I don’t even time to take a hot bath and a proper facial treatment – can’t even remember when was the last time I did either of these.
You may ask: why don’t you take a 15-minute rest before going to bed. Unfortunately, that’s not an option. I stay up until 1 or 2 in the morning working on my stuff, then make sure boys are sleeping well, then hop into my bed and pass out! I don’t even have a moment to unwind.
So, my goal is simple, but daunting to me – relax/unwind for 15 minutes a day!
To all the busy mommies out there – may the force be with you!!!
10 – started a new job – part-time teaching. I have met a lot of funky students. I love this job!
9 – continued my previous job – full-time mom – it is getting harder and harder. Being a full-time mom is a job that requires communication skills, excellent time management, never-ending energy, and much more. I love this job even more!
8 – met a ringpoche and he has made a difference in my life. Thank you.
7 – My computer has taken an early Christmas and New year vacation – it has stopped working properly since the beginning of December.
6 – started blogging – what a pleasurable activity to vent.
5 – Roy started kindergarten – so exciting!
4 – surgery – painful and costly, but I should feel a lot better in the years to come.
3 – Steve made me a few handbags…they are all awesome! I am expecting more in 2010!
2 – my two boys are getting healthier and cuter everyday. They even started fighting, for anything. Keep up the good work, boys!
The number ONE item for the year 2009 is…
1 – We are all still here, and hope things will get better in 2010!!!