I need to learn to relax!

As simple and stupid it may sound, this is my new year resolution. My goal this year is to relax for 15 minutes everyday. I may listen to music; read a book; do some stretching, etc. Well, it may sound easy to a lot of people, it is certainly not easy for me. My mind is on the go all the time – what to do next, what activity I can squeeze-in in 10 minutes, how much I can read on a 15-minute MTR journey…this list is endless. As well, I am always on the go, physically – taking the boys to schools, to their lessons, going to my classes, running errands for the family…again, this list is endless. I don’t even time to take a hot bath and a proper facial treatment – can’t even remember when was the last time I did either of these.

You may ask: why don’t you take a 15-minute rest before going to bed. Unfortunately, that’s not an option. I stay up until 1 or 2 in the morning working on my stuff, then make sure boys are sleeping well, then hop into my bed and pass out! I don’t even have a moment to unwind.

So, my goal is simple, but daunting to me – relax/unwind for 15 minutes a day!

To all the busy mommies out there – may the force be with you!!!

10 – started a new job – part-time teaching. I have met a lot of funky students. I love this job!
9 – continued my previous job – full-time mom – it is getting harder and harder. Being a full-time mom is a job that requires communication skills, excellent time management, never-ending energy, and much more. I love this job even more!
8 – met a ringpoche and he has made a difference in my life. Thank you.
7 – My computer has taken an early Christmas and New year vacation – it has stopped working properly since the beginning of December.
6 – started blogging – what a pleasurable activity to vent.
5 – Roy started kindergarten – so exciting!
4 – surgery – painful and costly, but I should feel a lot better in the years to come.
3 – Steve made me a few handbags…they are all awesome! I am expecting more in 2010!
2 – my two boys are getting healthier and cuter everyday. They even started fighting, for anything. Keep up the good work, boys!

Drum roll………

The number ONE item for the year 2009 is…
1 – We are all still here, and hope things will get better in 2010!!!

Happy New Year to all of you out there! May good health be with you, always!





早幾星期有朋友問哪兒有聖誕大餐吃,要有十道菜,唔係buffet嗰隻。突然發現,小時侯吃的聖誕大餐,好似大多已變成buffet,仲要係越高檔,就越早fully booked。

時代進步,生活質素改善,自然想對自己同家人好D,對外出飲食的要求也提高了。這些五/六星級酒店的buffet,生意有增無減。沒去過這些buffet,總好像給別人比下去,所以好早就到處book 五/六星級酒店的buffet。

我家從去年決定放棄五星級酒店,轉移光顧中檔次的酒店buffet,但感覺出奇的好。這地方的顧客,不會太刻意打扮,也不會刻意扮高級。因為地方不是五/六星級酒店,也沒有了「白鴿眼」的眼光。食物更加是老少咸宜,八十歲的太公,兩歲的小朋友,飲食講究的印傭姐姐,也吃得開懷。用餐途中,仲有抽獎,非常適合香港人的口味。冇得頂!

其實,食聖誕大餐,只不過是一個藉口和家人,朋友聚一聚。是否五/六星級酒店,真的重要嗎?I don’t think so!只要地方、食物清潔,大家吃得盡興,已經合格了。

話咁快,哥哥四歲啦!每逢哥哥生日,以下的畫面都會在我腦海再出現…

2005年,冬至後作動入醫院,陣痛二十四小時後,仔仔平安夜凌晨出世,一家人歡天喜地。十二小時後,負責檢查的醫生走入我病房,我以為好似電視劇咁,佢會恭喜我同Steve。哈!佢竟然一開口,連稱呼都冇,就同我講﹕「你個仔有D問題。」然後一口氣講出哥哥幾個問題,講到阿仔好似外星人咁,我仲以為自己生咗隻羅茲威爾(The alien from Roswell)。

對唔住,我真係接受唔到,要醫生repeat又repeat。醫生話眼睛大和下巴較短會係某種綜合症嘅symptoms之一,但佢又講唔出係乜綜合症,只係話仔仔好有問題,都真係幾嬲。

那一刻開始,我覺得我的人生已完了!生咗個有缺憾嘅小朋友,點算?
那一刻開始,「擔心」已成了我生命的一部份!好擔心小朋友的將來,他會OK嗎?

再擔心,日子都總要過。在擔心的日子裡,學會了堅強,學會了知足,亦學會了世事不會往往如人意。與其問點解,怨天,倒不如努力解決問題。

話咁快就四年啦,那些頻密出入醫院的日子已經捱過咗,只希望仔仔以後的路會越行越順,身體一年比一年好,再冇其他要求。每次當我聽到其他父母在談論如何催谷自己的小朋友時,我從來唔會參與,因為我在哥哥受盡身心的痛苦時,跟他承諾過不會讓他再受不必要的壓力。仔仔,媽媽一定會堅守承諾!

我屋企多咗個外星人,佢操流利太空話,冇人聽得明佢嘅內容,只有哥哥同佢有對答,但哥哥只係同佢講 No, No, No,好攪笑。

你會話︰『唓!個個BB都係先講BB話,然後再慢慢學說話的。有幾得意呀?』

如果你有小朋友,我會同你講︰『你實在係身在腹中不知福。我大仔九個月大就會叫媽媽,一直到兩歲都只會叫媽媽,連爸爸都不懂叫。因為先天缺憾的關係,我們唯有不斷帶他見言語治療師。學了半年都只係叫媽媽,實在令人擔心和氣餒。』

在他兩歲半時,就像治療師所講一樣,在沒有經過太空話的階段下,哥哥突然懂得說話。我想,只要哥哥會說話,過程是如何,已經不再重要。話雖如此,當我今日第一次聽到細佬嘅太空話,心裡有說不出的喜悅。

外星人細佬,thank you!

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