你有住過醫院嗎?我有。一共四次。如你從沒有住過醫院,衷心希望你永遠沒有這個機會。

每次躺在病床上,都是百般滋味。有欣喜﹑有憂心﹑也有恐懼。在病床上的時間一點也不好過。

我第一次住醫院,是十八年前。當時年紀輕,冇乜話驚唔驚。只記得做完手術好快行得走得去shopping,後生真可愛。

第二次住醫院,是當大兒子出生時。大仔出世喎,一定好開心啦。但奈何偏偏出了岔子,大仔有點缺憾 (之前冇驗到的),令我倆心情由天上跌到谷底。更要擔心兒子的將來。好恨醫院,好恨醫院內一切一切。

第三次,是次子出世。有了大仔的遭遇,今次其實是懷著忐忑的心情入院。經過二十四小時的陣痛,醫生告訴我小兒一切安好,開心得兩晚睡不著。醫院內一切一切也變得美好。

早兩天是第四次,當然希望是最後一次。今次做手術之前,猶豫了好耐,錢是一個問題,但更擔心手術會否出問題,有否後遺症,會否就此死去,再見不到身邊的人,再見不到兒子。有十萬個問號在腦內亂轉,恐懼指數爆燈!跟醫生商討後,最後都是聽了醫生的意見,做了手術。做完手術的迷糊,傷口的痛,一點也不好受。我只希望,以後也不再需要受這種身心上的折磨。

我再次衷心祝願各位身體健康,沒有住醫院的機會。要長期望住醫院的天花板,再有錢都冇用。

祝你
身體健康!

All of us know the importance of drinking adequate amount of milk for ourselves and for the babies. Or do we?

Milk is part of western culture daily diet. To most expectant mothers, taking in the daily needed dosage of calcium is not an issue. However, milk is not part of the Chinese diet. It is, therefore, even more important for Chinese to ensure there is enough calcium everyday. More so, some of the Chinese are turned off by the smell of milk during pregnancy. So, what can be done?

The easiest way is to eat calcium-enriched food, such as cheese (pasteurized ones), yogurt, or juices fortified with calcium, broccoli, sardines in oil (also eat the fishbone), tofu, or even cheesecakes! Some people are skeptical about soya milk, but actually you can take in calcium-fortified soya milk. Some of my friends found it work fantastic!

So, being a Chinese does not mean our bodies and babies will be lacking the needed calcium. Find the right substitutes and we will all be fine!

TAKE A DEEP BREATH! But, what’s next?

Let’s face it! We are growing new lives inside our bodies, so, it is NOT easy to relax. Nevertheless, stressing out will not make the pregnancy easier. So, try taking the following advices.

  • Think positive. Too many of us are too worried about the whole ordeal – will it be a boy or girl? will I have a painful delivery? will I have a speedy recovery? will the baby be free of problems and be perfectly healthy? The list is endless. And the fact is, we ask ourselves far too many questions and put ourselves into too much unnecessary stress. Again, take a deep breath, than tackle these questions one at a time.
    Does it really matter if the baby is a boy or girl? Not really. How long will the pain last in a really painful delivery? A few hours and you are going to forget all about it once you see your baby. Recovery? Everyone will recover eventually, don’t worry. Will the baby be healthy? Well, you have done everything you can to ensure the health of the baby, there is only so much you can do.
    So, next time when you have a question, write it down, than try to answer it with your best effort. After that, you should leave the questions behind you, considered them problems solved. This should make you feel less anxious.
  • Get information on your questions. It is always a good idea to try to find answers to your questions. However, try to avoid information overload. You need to know how to strike the balance. Otherwise, you will get buried inside the massive information and get even more stressed out after reading all the materials. Try to figure out when to stop is very important!
  • When you are  stressed, you won’t get enough sleep; you can’t eat properly; you will mess up priorities of things…it does more harm than good. Talk to someone about your stress. You can talk to your doctors, your best friends, your partners. They will probably tell you that all of your concerns are unnecessary. And it is also true that they might not be able to help you to get the answers to all the questions, but having someone to share your worries will certainly help you to relieve the pressure.
  • Cut down on your chores and errands. These little things add to your stress. Get help and find someone to share your burden, it will give you room to relax and breathe.
  • Listen to your favourite music. I know I know. Some of us want to give birth to geniuses, and may turn to classical music, language courses, etc, hoping that the little ones will be the next Einstein, Mozart, or Picasso. Well, I didn’t buy that! I just went for my favourite music according to my mood – opera, classical, punk rock, jazz…anything that I love and would make me feel better, I went for them. The pregnancy is already stressful enough, why should I do something that I don’t like or enjoy? Now at 2 and 4, my boys love any kind of music that I play. Although they are not Einsteins, Mozart, or Picasso, I still love them very much!!!
  • Exercise. We all know exercises are the magic cure to a lot of stuff. And yes, it too can reduce the stress levels of expectant mothers. It will take your minds off your worries for a little while. And it also helps you to stay in shape. Go for it girls!

Being pregnant is stressing us out physically already. There is no need to stress ourselves our mentally. So, remember to share your worries with your partners. They are there to help you out!

Chinese eat a lot of exotic delicacies, the Chinese expectant mothers are no exception. I want to talk about the two most popular ones – fish maw and bird’s nest.

Fish Maw (花膠) – yep! Fish Maw! This is the gas bladders in fish. And yes, I am talking about the internal organ of fish. But, don’t be turned off. When cooked properly, this delicacy is a real treat! It is also a rich source of collagen and believed to be good for you and your babies.
There are different ways to prepare the fish maw. The easiest and most convenient way, I have done in the past, is to prepare a larger piece at once, then eat portions of it when needed. To do so, you first to soak the washed larger piece in cold water overnight. When the fish maw is soften, you then bring a pot of water to boil, and place the fish maw in it. When the water and the maw boil again, you can turn the heat off and let the fish maw remain in the pot for three to four hours. When it is soft enough, you will take it out, drain it, cut it into smaller pieces, then place the smaller pieces (wrapped separately) in the freezer for later use. Next time when you cook your favourite soup, just dump a few pieces into your soup, and you have finished the cooking. But remember to eat everything in the soup! Otherwise, you would have missed out a lot!
Oh! You can also make sweet soups with the maw. Simply take out the smaller pieces and ‘double-boil’ it with rock sugar. It is deeeeeee-licious!
One more thing, some people may say that you should eat the male or the female maw. To me, there wasn’t any difference, as long as there is something for me to eat!

Bird’s Nest (燕窝) – that’s another delicacy. You can eat it sweet or salty. To make the sweet soup, soak the washed nest in cold water for about two hours, then ‘double-boil’ it for an hour or so, add rock sugar, ‘double-boil’ for another 5 to 10 minutes, you are done! It is really tasty!
Another easy way to cook it is, after soaking it, place the nest in congee and serve. It is convenient and tasty as well.
One thing I have to remind you is that, as tasty as bird’s nest is, doctors have recommended expectant mothers not to consume too much of it. Some lesser quality bird’s nests are believed to be contaminated with heavy metal. Eating too much (unintentionally of course) of heavy metal will certainly do more harm than good to you and your babies.

Bon Appetite!

Let’s talk about meat and seafood for the expectant mothers.

Seafood is full of nutrients, especially rich in protein. Protein is essential to the growth of the unborn babies. However, traditional Chinese wisdom has told us that we should not eat crabs, prawns, lobsters, and other edible crustaceans. They were thought to be the culprit of eczema. As you have guessed, I just did the opposite. And my boys are fine! So, I would say, EAT THEM! Just make sure you do eat too much of anything, and you will be fine!

Meat - Chinese were advised not to eat lamb meat. This is because in the Chinese language, lamb / sheep shares the same pronunciation as epileptic seizure. So, expectant mothers are asked to stay away from lamb meat – if you eat lamb, your child will suffer from epilepsy. Of course this is not true! Go ahead and enjoy your lamb chops!
In addition, Chinese eat some exotic food, like snake meat. Snake meat is believed to keep us warm during winter time. However, expectant mothers are asked not to eat it because of its scaly skin. Expectant mothers were warned that if we eat snake meat, the babies may have problematic skin like those of snakes. Well, you can judge it for yourself. But the same theory goes with lychee I talked about last time. I think if you really feel like some snake meat, go for it!

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