When you get into fights or arguments, do you always feel that you are the one who is right and everyone else is wrong? Why is that you are the only one who has made all the sacrifices and everyone else is just a stupid idiot?

I just want to tell my friends here that, when you get into fights or arguments, take a deep breath, take a step back, and take a look at the whole situation again – why did things end up this way? Is there a better alternative to the current mess? Try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes and look at the whole thing again. You may be able to see something different.

Things don’t have to go ugly when we fight. Try to be civilized and find ways out to settle things in peace. Afterall, it is not worth it to be mad at anyone or anything.

Why did people get married in the first place?

Let us walk through the whole process again:

1. We were alone and ‘dry.’

2. We started dating.

3. We had a feeling that we couldn’t be with the other persons enough, so we decided to get married (or live together).

4. Well, people get married and…

There are usually two possible outcomes:

A. They live happily ever after;

or

B. Something went wrong and they started to loathe each other, then came DIVORCE.

What went wrong? Did someone change? Did the environment we were in change? Why did we move from love to hatred?

The thing is, when people start fighting, things get ugly. There will be finger-pointing, he said – she said, name callings, etc. The worst is people would say things they did not mean to. Then things go downhill from that point, even to a point of no return.  As we always say this in Chinese: you won a fight, but you lost your marriage. Was it really worth it?

So next time, please think twice before you get into a fight with your partner.