Why did you get married?

Why did people get married in the first place?

Let us walk through the whole process again:

1. We were alone and ‘dry.’

2. We started dating.

3. We had a feeling that we couldn’t be with the other persons enough, so we decided to get married (or live together).

4. Well, people get married and…

There are usually two possible outcomes:

A. They live happily ever after;

or

B. Something went wrong and they started to loathe each other, then came DIVORCE.

What went wrong? Did someone change? Did the environment we were in change? Why did we move from love to hatred?

The thing is, when people start fighting, things get ugly. There will be finger-pointing, he said – she said, name callings, etc. The worst is people would say things they did not mean to. Then things go downhill from that point, even to a point of no return.  As we always say this in Chinese: you won a fight, but you lost your marriage. Was it really worth it?

So next time, please think twice before you get into a fight with your partner.